Marriage can be a wonderful experience. It can be painful, frustrating, hilarious, comforting, annoying and tender. How much it leans to either end of the happiness spectrum depends on making a good choice of partner at the beginning.
Generation after generation, women are making the same mistakes when it comes to marriage. This could be avoided, to some extent, if we keep some important points in mind before getting married.
Romance is not enough this is most common mistake especially a woman makes getting married because you are in love! Being in love in it is not a good enough reason to marry. Women fall in love for many reasons – it doesn't mean the man they have fallen in love with will be a good partner. Choosing a good partner makes all the difference between having a harmonious marriage and a difficult marriage.
A going to be married couple seriously need to question how well they can work together for a lifetime. Do they complement each other?
Many women believe in the "and they lived happily ever after" ending. Women are fed romantic ideals from the day they are born. Books and movies aimed at girls invariably promote the big wedding to the perfect man as the ideal ending.
Women believe that he will always be as romantic as he is now. That doesn't mean women have to give up on romance, just that they shouldn't expect a "grand gesture" every day.
They often give up their friends and interests when they fall in love with the one whom they are getting married especially in case of arrange marriages. With the thrill of being in love, it is too easy for women to put friends and family, hobbies and sports on the backburner.
Women lose their sense of "self". Getting into an intense relationship before they've developed a clear sense of their own identity is another common mistake young women make. Without a clear sense of self, women identify overly with their partner and find it difficult to stand up for themselves and their own needs.
They don't have conversations about serious issues before getting married. An Engaged Couple need to talk about where they both stand on issues that can make or break a marriage. They need to talk about where each person's priorities lie, spending styles, dreams and goals, where they see themselves 20 years from now, parenting styles, sharing of responsibilities, etc. They should know beforehand if their beliefs are incompatible with each other. This alone can determine how happy or conflicted a marriage is.
Women have a tendency to gloss over qualities they don't like in a man, telling themselves "Oh, he'll change" or "I'll work on that". Women need to either accept and enjoy the differences between them or create an environment that encourages the man to want to change for the woman.
Generation after generation, women are making the same mistakes when it comes to marriage. This could be avoided, to some extent, if we keep some important points in mind before getting married.
Romance is not enough this is most common mistake especially a woman makes getting married because you are in love! Being in love in it is not a good enough reason to marry. Women fall in love for many reasons – it doesn't mean the man they have fallen in love with will be a good partner. Choosing a good partner makes all the difference between having a harmonious marriage and a difficult marriage.
A going to be married couple seriously need to question how well they can work together for a lifetime. Do they complement each other?
Many women believe in the "and they lived happily ever after" ending. Women are fed romantic ideals from the day they are born. Books and movies aimed at girls invariably promote the big wedding to the perfect man as the ideal ending.
Women believe that he will always be as romantic as he is now. That doesn't mean women have to give up on romance, just that they shouldn't expect a "grand gesture" every day.
They often give up their friends and interests when they fall in love with the one whom they are getting married especially in case of arrange marriages. With the thrill of being in love, it is too easy for women to put friends and family, hobbies and sports on the backburner.
Women lose their sense of "self". Getting into an intense relationship before they've developed a clear sense of their own identity is another common mistake young women make. Without a clear sense of self, women identify overly with their partner and find it difficult to stand up for themselves and their own needs.
They don't have conversations about serious issues before getting married. An Engaged Couple need to talk about where they both stand on issues that can make or break a marriage. They need to talk about where each person's priorities lie, spending styles, dreams and goals, where they see themselves 20 years from now, parenting styles, sharing of responsibilities, etc. They should know beforehand if their beliefs are incompatible with each other. This alone can determine how happy or conflicted a marriage is.
Women have a tendency to gloss over qualities they don't like in a man, telling themselves "Oh, he'll change" or "I'll work on that". Women need to either accept and enjoy the differences between them or create an environment that encourages the man to want to change for the woman.
Note: Marriage is that relation between man and woman in which the independence is equal, the dependence mutual, and the obligation reciprocal. Marriage is not a noun; it's a verb. It isn't something you get, It's something you do. It's the way you love your partner every day.
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